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(Nobody and Nothing can be perfect!)
“Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none; be able for thine enemy rather in power than use; and keep thy friend under thine own life’s key; be checked for silence, but never taxed for speech” -William Shakespeare.
Easier said than done, Mr. Shakespeare!! If we could have done all these things, we wouldn’t be discussing this topic here – the Do’s and Don’ts in a relationship, be it of any kind.
In teenage, what we prioritize the most is our peers, our acquaintances rather than familial relationships. We are under immense influence of many friends, or the so called “foes”. In fact, friendship is the crux of any relationship. And there are some things which must be taken care of.
Some points to get things right in a friendship-
- DO NOT speak behind anyone’s back. Try to be as straightforward as you can.
- Don’t listen to the Bollywood myth – “a girl and a guy cannot be just friends”.
- Don’t feign friendship by using the “brother – sister” theory. It is stale, and a pockmark on friendship.
- Never make a promise until and unless you are 100% sure you are going to fulfill it. Promises aren’t always meant to be broken.
- Try not to return gratitude as soon as someone does something for you. It will be more like removing a debt rather than a friendly gesture. This doesn’t mean you never return the gratitude, though.
- Being fake is never going to help you in the long run. So stop the counterfeit, and get real.
- If you don’t like something which your friend says or does, say it on his face and make him right. “Support” and “help” shouldn’t be used as a shield for impish purposes.
- Don’t force your friend to tell you each and every secret of his life. This is because, HE has the sole responsibility to choose whether he will tell you something or NOT, NOT YOU.
- If your friend is filthy rich, DO NOT make him go bankrupt, until and unless he is the one who wants to spend money. And for those who are not that well-heeled, try not to make them feel “less privileged”.
10. Do not use your friend to get back at someone. Rather his advice will make things better.
11. Discuss who your friends are, with your parents. You can like or lump the fact, but at the end of the day – Parents are your true best friends for life.